without believing every word

Martiniscica, Croatia

We tend to bestow our judging mind with unquestioned power and authority, but this risks an inaccurate self-perception. Instead, listen and question, without believing every word. Take back your right to evaluate the credibility of judgments and your own self-worth. By clarifying your relationship to the judging mind, you can reclaim your power to establish a more accurate self-perception and stable sense of well-being. ~Mark Coleman

A monk asked Shito “How does one become free?”. Shito replied, “Who has bound you?” That’s the question, who binds you? Don’t look outside, look into the mind, investigate the opinionated mind. Become familiar with its opinions and judgments; then you won’t be so vulnerable to them. Our effort is to release the mind from its ordinary opinions and see revealed a new universe. Nothing binds us but the habituated mind. ~Katherine  Thanas

I saw these posts on Mindful Balance last month HERE and HERE, and they resonated with me. {Karl Duffy, I hope you know how much I enjoy your blog and all of the wisdom you capture and share there. Thank you!}

With regular practice, I learn to notice the voice that talks to me, that interprets the world for me, that makes judgments about just about everything, and that shares her stories with me. And with regular practice, I learn to discern when her ideas are truly helpful and to choose what I believe and act upon. It is a continual process of exploration and discovery. I catch myself listening to her, wanting to be in control, wanting to reach closure, wanting to be perfect, wanting more when there’s plenty…wanting, wanting, wanting. The small victory comes when I let her needs go and open to a world of possibility that she couldn’t even imagine.

art of attention

Lustica Peninsula Montenegro.JPG

Another lovely invitation from John O’Donohue (from Anam Chara) which I first read on the Mindfulbalance blog. (Thank you, Karl, for making me aware of another lovely piece by this author.)

We should not force ourselves to change by hammering our lives into any predetermined shape. We do not need to operate according to the idea of a predetermined program or plan for our lives. Rather, we need to practice a new art of attention to the inner rhythm of our days and lives. This attention brings a new awareness of our own human and divine presence…if you work with a different rhythm, you will come easily and naturally home to yourself.  Your soul knows the geography of your destiny.  Your soul alone has the map of your future.  John O’Donohue


This seems a sage suggestion, especially since recently I retired from IBM. Instead of my work and leadership mostly determining the shape of my days, I have the opportunity to create my life, to really lean into manifesting an abundantly delicious life that is open with possibility. What a beautiful time to practice the art of attention, to listen for my  inner rhythm. The newfound space is quite special, although finding my rhythm is a journey and the path for coming home to myself is sometimes elusive.  🙂 Mr. Donohue’s wise words invite me to trust and be patient.


* I took this photo near Kotor, Montenegro on the Lustica Peninsula.


If you liked this, you may also be interested in these other posts featuring John O’Donohue’s work: